All of us would like to be our safe selves in peace, don’t we? My partner of seven years wasn’t so crazy about non-monogamy once I first indicated a desire for this. But upon that great joys of polyamory, he changed their brain and we’ve been gladly non-monogamous from the time. My ex-boyfriend’s spouse (my previous metamour) attempted polyamory out, but it absolutely wasn’t her thing. She had all of the freedom to explore but felt most satisfied by being monogamous along with her spouse, regardless if he wasn’t monogamous along with her.